living life..

observation sometimes dont get u much. often it's only when u experience it on a first person account then can u really feel for it. how can u ever understand the feeling of a mother who had just given birth to her first child? get what i mean?


it's the same with life as a whole aint it? unless u're living that person's life, if not how can u ever totally understand what he/she is going through? that's why sometimes u should save ur comments on some things first, despite having observed them for a period of time. (maybe i should stop complaining how mugger my class is too, i should admire them for their determination to study so hard instead... that's a more positive attitude aint it?)


and why am i on this topic all of a sudden? it was led on by my bro, my sis and the five. u see, despite having stayed in the same house as my sis and bro, i still cant understand what's going through their minds. waddup with my bro's lousy attitude towards his studies? who called my sis and why's she missing him? and the five: xue's dream, choo's emotions, chun's andy(???) and jie's life generally..


i may think i know what's going on in their lives, but who am i lying? i'm onli aware of the more superficial issues of their lives, which i guess comprises of lesser than 50% of what he/she is really going through. as much as i hate to admit, but i've got to agree with my sis that there are some things which we shouldnt ask too much, because knowing it wont do us any good anyway. there's always this side of people which they dont want others to know, a weaker side which they dont like to show.


i know i shouldnt use an episode from a tv serial as an example, but look at "desperate housewives". the mother of 4 couldnt cope with her kids and was practically going to kill herself.. thinking that she's such a failure because she cant handle her children, when she saw how well her friends had coped with their kids. but in actual fact, she didnt know that her friends were in the same plight as her too. u see, that's the weak side they were trying to hide or didnt want others to know..


what i'm trying to say is that i should stop trying to pry into people's private affairs which they refuse to tell. no point feeling too upset over it too, because it doesnt mean that the person dont trust u or what i guess.


some things are better left un-asked.. sometimes it's better not to ask too much also. everyone has their own little secret they dont want others to know. so i should just keep my nose out. =Þ